The easiest way to explain living in the present is to start by explaining what it means to not be present, since this is the state we have become habitually used to.
When you aren’t being present you become a victim of time. Your mind is pulled into the past or the future, or both.
Your thoughts are of the past: what has been, what could have been, what you thought happened vs. what actually did happen. Or, your thoughts are of the future: what will be, what could be, what might be, if…
Of course, it’s natural to spend moments of thought in the past or in daydreams of the future. Identifying impending dangers through associations with things that have happened in the past is important for self-preservation.
But when our lives become dictated by thoughts and emotions attached to past events and potential future outcomes, standing peacefully rooted in the present becomes increasingly rare.
Our routine, our habit, is to be off in our heads somewhere mulling over negativity and struggles of the past, or becoming anxious and fearful of the future. Seldom are we fully “here”; neutrally centred to see through life’s lens with clarity and naked awareness – a state that assists us in finding contentment and understanding in ourselves.
Habits quickly become the norm and, as we know from many of life’s other vices, just because we’re used to doing something regularly doesn’t mean it is good for us, or the right way to live.
An easy way to break this habit of being a victim of time is to identify time for what it is. Time is a human concept. The watch on your wrist and the clock on the wall mean nothing to Mother Nature.
To her, life is one evolving moment – a perpetual cycle of interdependent impermanence. Time is a metric we use as a reference point for organising our lives and documenting history. It doesn’t actually exist. Really, it doesn’t. Ask a scientist.
Time is an illusion, which makes being controlled by time somewhat delusional. The past doesn’t exist and neither does the future. The only true reference point we have to this moment in time, and to this thing we label “existence”, is a feeling of presence, of being here in this body, of seeing the world through these eyes.
This is all that can exist, because this is what you feel right now. You can’t feel the past or the future, but you can feel what it feels like to touch something right now, to see something, to hear something.
The concept of time deludes us into concerning ourselves with its passing and impending arrival. This stops us enjoying this “presence” we feel. We are duped into remaining in one of two states: The first, one of dwelling in the past and mulling over what has happened. The second, one of waiting amd constantly anticipating what is to come, if and when…
For example:
– How often do you enjoy your work? Or are you too busy thinking about getting it finished by the deadline to give yourself a chance to enjoy it?
– Are you so stressed out trying to do your best work to impress your boss that you prevent yourself being able to perform at your highest potential anyway?
– Are you so distracted by thoughts of Monday morning that you spoil the time spent with your children on the weekend?
– Are you so caught up in regrets of the past that you prevent opportunity blossoming in the present?
– Are the opinions of others, formed through actions you took in the past, stopping you being who you (are) want to be in the present?
We are all unavoidably victims of time to some degree, because it has become the accepted state of norm in our fast-paced, highly motivated and highly-strung society. And for this reason it is important that we understand that to not be present is to be torn between two worlds, the past and the future, neither of which exist. To constantly reside in this state prevents us enjoying life and finding happiness.
If you allow yourself to be a victim of time – a victim of the past and a slave to a future that is yet to unravel – you will carry with you a sense of unease. You will be susceptible to stress, agitation and feel generally uncomfortable in life.
There is no redemption to be found in time.
So surrender to what is right now.
Wherever you are, commit to being there, completely. Life will take care of the rest.
Allyk says
July 13, 2018 at 4:20 amAll that was and will be is. All we need to do is breathe in the light, and there exists enlightenment.
Lakshmi Ganapathi says
August 4, 2018 at 12:54 amTimely read for me. Thank you and it is well written.
Tushar Ghawale says
September 12, 2018 at 2:37 pmvery nicely written. never read this concept of time before that because of time binding…we focus on that deadline or particular time and we think of that deadline or time until that point comes and hence during this process we forget to live in present.
I really liked this article.
Alfred James says
September 12, 2018 at 4:39 pmThanks Tushar. We need to remember to enjoy the journey. The reward is in the steps we take. Once we reach the goal, the mind is quickly working on the next one!
ellie says
October 2, 2018 at 12:29 amAre you the author?
Alfred James says
October 2, 2018 at 9:01 amYes Ellie.
Kay says
March 2, 2019 at 10:13 pmLoved that.
Tan says
November 14, 2018 at 1:07 amThank you! I am always living in the future. I will think of all sorts of negative scenarios that may come up in the future. It’s true. I don’t enjoy what I have now. Sometimes I wonder why do I think so much. There may be fears of what’s coming up…getting a medical report…etc..i dwell so much in imagining the bad things that I get quite depressed. Living in the moment will help. But I guess I need the courage to face what’s coming up.
Alfred James says
November 14, 2018 at 10:50 amI understand. It’s not easy. But remember, the future doesn’t exist yet. Only ‘now’ exists. So if you constantly live in thoughts of the future, you’re essentially living in a non-reality. And we know from experience that our worries and fears very rarely come true. I know it’s hard because we are faced with so many worries and concerns, and of course it is natural to think about the future and properly prepare for our wellbeing, but try to find activities that give your mind a break and root you in the present for a while. Exercise is a great way to do that: running, a gym workout or playing a sport you enjoy. Walking in nature is great too. Listening to your favourite music, or playing music if you play an instrument. Painting, writing, or anything creative that focuses your mind on something you enjoy and fully engages you in that activity.
Ruth says
February 4, 2019 at 12:25 pmThanks for this article.
SEW says
December 14, 2018 at 8:47 amI am always thinking about the negative thing that have happened to me and the positive things that is going to happen. I never lived today
William Melton says
December 18, 2018 at 5:59 amThanks for the forthright thoughts. Living in the two has been my life. When in the moment it is easy to forget the two.They are non-exist when in the moment so I would forget their power they have.Flashes of the two are always there,even when in the moment.Still in therapy ( CBT).Meds etc.. This article has moved me along in a good way.
Steven Arecco says
April 12, 2019 at 6:58 pmAlfred, absolutely wonderful article! So beautifully written and expressed!!
It is truly everything i believe and practice, as best i can:-) I study Eckhart Tolle, Jon Kabat Zinn, Wayne Dyer & many others.
I have a youtube channel and would ABSOLUTELY LOVE to interview you! We use zoom conferencing. It will be edited before release. I would also be able to send you it and allow any edits you felt you would like prior to release.
Really hope to hear from you Alfred, as i feel our message must reach as many people as possible and as soon as possible!
Steven D. Arecco
Alfred James says
April 15, 2019 at 12:34 pmHi Steven, thank you for your kind words. I’ll will have to graciously decline your offer for an interview as I’m not currently doing that sort of thing. Thank you for thinking of me though. I will keep an eye out for your videos and articles though.
Steven D. Arecco says
April 15, 2019 at 6:26 pmThank you for the prompt reply Alfred. Hope all is well with you and your family:-)
Steven D. Arecco