We all get to a point in our lives where we ask the question: Am I living the life that I want to live, or the life that I think is expected of me?
Is this the pathway that I would have chosen for my life, or did I just follow this pathway because society says this is a respectable and safe pathway, or because my parents expected me to take this route?
Essentially, am I writing my own life book, or am I letting other people write it for me?
These questions usually become really apparent in our 30s, 40s or 50s, but for some it can be later.
Sure, we will have niggling doubts throughout all stages of life, but often it takes a big life event such as a personal loss to really make us sit down and think long and hard about where we've come from and the decisions we have made, where we are at, and where we going to end up.
We get to a point where we think: Am I just a stick in a stream, floating along with the current, with no control over my destiny?
I've certainly spent the last decade asking and answering these questions and subsequently changing many things about my life.
The thing is, it's a big topic and a very difficult one to address, and that's why so many people don't face up to the doubts in their mind and confront their worries, fears and anxieties and make changes.
Instead, most people just plod along on the so-called safe path and end up having regrets, and realizing that mentally, it's not such a safe path after all.
And that's why John Butcher's Lifebook is so powerful for me: because it's an all-encompassing tool to help stop, stand still, re-evaluate and re-centre, devise a plan, and move forward.
It's actually everything I've been writing about for many years on this blog.
How Lifebook Works
It is actually pretty easy for us to say what we would like to do or what we are going to do, but as I've previously pointed out in my New Year's resolution posts, which I share from year to year, seldom do these goals and self-promises last more than a few weeks.
It's all hot air, so to speak.
Why is that?
It's because we need to dig deeper into whom we are. We need to take a look at the self-limiting beliefs that prevent us making profound changes in our lives, be that our career or personal relationships.
We need to look at how we perceive the world, how others perceive us, the pressure and expectation that we've been under for the majority of our lives, the negative behaviors we've inherited from our parents and peers.
We need to consider how our subconscious beliefs have been dictating our lives step-by-step, every day for the past God knows how many years.
It's only when we identify these things and begin to change the way we think and perceive that we can properly start to understand what needs to be done to move forward.
Which Areas of Your Life Need the Most Attention?
And this is what Lifebook is all about. It is essentially about inner-engineering to make profound change.
It's about drawing a line in the sand and creating a new narrative for your life.
It's about stepping over that line in the sand and leaving the old you behind, and stepping into the new you, the one that you have always wanted to live through and flourish in.
Lifebook covers the 12 key dimensions of life.
You’ll learn how to strengthen each of these 12 dimensions and explore the vital and often surprising interplays between each one.
For instance, if you’re facing a financial challenge, you might sometimes find that the solution lies not in focusing directly on money or your career, but on your intellectual life, or even your life vision.
The 12 dimensions are as follows:
- health and fitness
- love relationships
- life vision
Each dimension follows a system of discovery, shaping, design, and then connecting with others going through the same:
How well you’re really doing in the 12 key areas of your life – like your career, finances, health, relationships, and more.
A crystal-clear vision of your ultimate success in these 12 key areas of life.
An easy-to-follow action plan and strategies for achieving that success in every area of life, without sacrificing anything in the process.
With Lifebook founders Jon and Missy, and other Lifebookers – so you’re constantly supported, motivated, and accountable, every step of the way.
The Lifebook Online Creators: Jon & Missy Butcher
What's interesting about Lifebook is that it isn't taught by a personal growth teacher per se; it has been developed by a couple, Jon and Missy Butcher, who are entrepreneurs and partners and have a very successful group of companies – and a successful marriage.
The Lifebook is the blueprint that they've developed through their trials and tribulations for living a successful, happy and healthy life.
It's actually pretty easy to feel somewhat envious of this couple. They're in their 50s and still looking fantastically young and healthy, they are running businesses, living in different countries throughout the year, and still creating fantastic memories and most importantly living life on their terms.
For me, far more important than the financial success they've had – because I personally do not buy into the notion that financial success should define personal success – is the fact that they are somewhat rebels.
Indeed if you have been to any of their seminars or seen their videos, they come across as very grounded, spiritual people.
They aren't flaunting wealth or going around saying that everyone needs to become a multi-millionaire, but rather teaching people how to identify what they want out of life, and the terms that they would like to live their life on, and helping them develop a tangible vision that gets them there.
Become the Author of Your Best Life
So in this respect Lifebook is about your personal experience and creating your ideal life, not modeling yourself on some famous billionaire. And let's face it, a lot of people do this.
A lot of people look at the likes of Elon musk, Bill Gates, Warren Buffett, the late Steve Jobs, and others and simply try to emulate what they are doing, thinking that this will bring them success and happiness.
But that's not actually that different to what most of us do on a daily basis anyway.
We are all trying to earn money in our jobs, be it working for someone else of for ourselves. We're essentially just trying to get paid more for what we do so that we can have more stuff like those rich folk. But that's not actually going to bring us happiness.
You only have to look at the amount of rich and famous people who end up depressed and addicted to alcohol or drugs, or even worse committing suicide, to know that money does not bring happiness.
Money can certainly bring freedom and get rid of a lot of your worry and anxiety, but you'll quickly get used to having that amount of money, just as you have got used to having the amount of money that you have now.
Earning money doing something you are truly passionate about should be the goal.
What matters is what you want out of life: What is the vision you have for your life, or what is the vision you used to have for your life when you were a child or teenager in your 20s or 30s.
What happened to those goals?
What happened to that excitement at the prospect of doing something you love?
What happened to your passions?
Did someone tell you all you shouldn't go down that path because you won't make enough money?
Did you convince yourself that it was too risky?
Did you convince yourself that you wouldn't be able to get the type of husband or wife you would like if you made this decision or that decision?
How Lifebook Online Works
The 6-week program is delivered through training videos, which include a great documentary, and hosted on the Mindvalley Quests digital platform – which you can access on any device.
The Quest platform is inspired by micro-learning, which encourages engaging in daily bite-sized actions and exercises that require minimal effort but amount to greater results, and make it moe likely that you'll complete the program when compared to traditional courses.
The videos, presented by John Butcher, guide you through the Lifebook process, which is essentially the same stuff that is presented at the Lifebook events, one of which I attended earlier this year as a guest of Vishen, the Mindvalley owner.
One of the fantastic things about the course is that you actually get to connect with Jon and Missy via a coaching call each week. This really helps facilitate your progress. Meeting Jon and Missy is hugely motivating and will undoubtedly boost your morale.
Each life category (dimension) comes with a template to fill in, which you can print, bind and refer to each day. This concept is similar to journalling, which as I've spoken about before is extremely powerful.
Lifebook, In Summary
The reality is this: We constantly talk ourselves out of happiness in life.
We make decisions that are detrimental to our health, happiness and ultimately our prosperity because of our self-limiting beliefs.
I have written about this on numerous occasions, and I am guilty of it too.
And this is why I think Lifebook is such an important program for so many people.
It's a fantastic concept because you are literally creating your own blueprint.
You are being given the tools to work out exactly what's going on in your head and what you can do to start working towards the life you really want to live, not the life that you believe others expect you to be living, or the life you feel trapped in.
If you are in a place where you really want to make a change, if you are in a place in your life where your thinking “Is this it? this really wasn't what I had in mind for my life, this isn't how I thought it would play out for me”.
If there are specific areas of your life that you are just not happy in and you have that feeling inside that there is something more out there for you and something you could be more passionate about and happier doing, then Lifebook is a great place to kick-start that new you.
Whether it's your career, your love life, or your emotional well-being, make a start.
Or perhaps you know where you want to be but you're just having trouble formulating a vision and painting a picture of what this life looks like that you like to be living. In that regard, Lifebook Online will take you from a blank canvas to a tangible vision.
It is a really positive experience, period. There simply isn't anything negative about taking steps to make profound change. This is everything that I endorse.
Don't let other people, external expectations, and your self-limiting beliefs hold you back from doing what you want to do with your life.
Whether your vision is a simple career change to something that you have always wanted to do, or as elaborate as selling up and moving to another country and starting a new life, this will help you map out a pathway and start taking footsteps in the right direction.
Remember: There is no right or wrong in your vision. This is your life. It's time for you to start deciding and dictating in which direction it goes.
Go get 'em, champ!